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Its so hard. The first step of setting a LIMIT is to LISTEN – to ourselves to gauge our resources for limit setting / the context to see what might be contributing / and to our children to see things from their point of view and to connect with them before we step in.
Just like children go offtrack because there are feelings or hurts brewing under the surface, we tend to avoid setting LIMITS when WE have stuff brewing underneath the surface. Or we just run out of fuel and just don’t have the resources to bring to limit-setting in that moment.
When we notice ourselves avoiding its totally OK to avoid limits for a bit and focus on refueling. Listening Time, rest, laughter, quiet, play…whatever you need to refuel your good, strong limit setting muscles 🙂
The one convenient thing about feelings is that when we avoid them, they just stay right there (as you saw in the rough day) and there will be many other opportunities to work on them. You’ve got this! <3