Good for you for giving it a go! Yahoo! Well done! That takes great courage to do things a little differently at bedtime as we are usually out of gas and we just want them to GO TO SLEEP!! (:
Here are a couple of ideas that might make things even easier:
A horrible bedtime was what brought me to Hand in Hand Parenting by Connection. What I learned from Patty was to put as much connection into our bedtime as possible. I started thinking of bedtime starting about 4 or 5 pm. I tried to make our whole afternoon/evening kind of seamless in terms of connection. So, afterschool, we would do Special Time. Then my son could play for awhile while I got dinner. After dinner I gave him piggy back rides or we played chase games and did flips on the bed to the tub. Then we’d do more wild rides and flips on the bed; a pillow fight or some wrestling. Then I’d put on the music and turn out the light and my son would crawl into my lap and drift off to sleep. It was my favorite time of day.
I think it’s easier to set a firm loving cuddly limit around bedtime if you’ve had lots of rough n tumble play before hand. Most nights, when we followed the routine I gave you above, my son drifted right off. Occasionally, he did not. He would fly into a tantrum when I went to turn out the light and throw himself around the bed, crying. I knew that he had some big feelings he needed to release. But since I’d started so early, I still had the time and energy to listen.
Here are a couple of articles on staylistening at night.
Kali, I noticed that you have posted to start a listening partnership. That is so great! It’s really tough to listen to our kiddos at night. I think having a listening partner to whom we can complain, laugh and cry about how hard it is, is really helpful and will give you much more patience.
You are doing really well! Come back with any questions and let us know how it goes..
Peace & Smiles,
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