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Thanks, Kathy. Your response is really helpful and we’ve been trying out your suggestions. Now I’ve identified that I think the fear is both around people coming to our home, and also about fear of getting sick/dying. I think the work we’ve done since reading your response has already helped around other people. He told me today that he wished “stupid” was a good word to say. And we ended up having a whole game where he asked me to be the police and catch him, the bad guy and I felt it was really nurturing something in him. Now for the fear of getting sick…We live in a rural area so we talk a lot about ticks, poison ivy, poisonous bugs, etc. Today he touched a fuzzy caterpillar and we have told him to not touch these caterpillars as they may be poisonous. He came to me and asked me if he was going to get a rash, have to go to the doctor, get sick or die. Earlier today he got a splinter and cried “Am I going to get an infection?” I consider him to be quite easy going usually, so this fear is taking me by surprise a bit. Looking back, I suppose I responded more rationally than doing stay listening. I said things like “If you’re worried about getting a rash you can wash your hands”. But when I tried telling him “I think you’ll be ok” or “You’re most likely ok, and if you get a rash we’ll put clay on it” I realized how confusing it is for him, b/c I tell him not to touch something but then when he does, I say “you’re most likely ok”. And he says “what does most likely mean”? On one hand I want to reassure him that he’s ok, on the other hand perhaps these moments of fear about getting a rash/getting sick are a chance to bring out his cries about the fear more fully. Can you please guide me a bit more in how to do this sensitively? How do I convey to a 4.5 year old that I don’t have a yes or no answer about whether he’ll get a rash and I understand how scary that may be, but make him feel safe?