I’m so glad that you reached out here, even though you couldn’t make it to the call. Yes, we got your email and I’ll respond off-loop.
In regard to night weaning, I am going to get input from other Instructors who breast fed. As my son is adopted, I did not. My guess is that it would be best to wait until you are fully resourced, and can see it through. I know that Patty says if your kiddo gets sick and you revert back for a few nights, don’t worry. But I’m afraid one night on, one night off might be tough on both of you. That’s why , you might think about working on only one project at a time.
If you’d like your project to be night weaning, here is the good thinking from a couple of other Mom’s. One napped during the day, which you might not be able to do with a toddler. The other had made several attempts, and this last time, she really resourced herself.
I just realized, this 2nd one is more about night waking – but night waking is coming from the same source of tension as night weaning. So I think this Mom’s story is valuable – especially her thinking around it and how she resourced herself.
If you decide that perhaps you will just take on the Bed Wetting, here is Patty’s article about bed wetting. She talks about helping our kiddos with the fear that makes them release pee in the middle of the night. I believe there is also a biological reality in that some kiddos – particularly boys – wet the bed later, as their brains have not yet developed the chemical or process that wakes them up when they need to go. Whether it’s biology or fear, you could let go of the idea of needing him to stop wetting the bed. Instead you could set a LIMIT that he has to wear pullups.
If you just set the limit that he has to wear pullups and you didn’t force him, but PROPOSED the pullups, holding them up for him to see… you may get some really big feelings. If it is tension that is causing the bed wetting, then using the Pullup Limit for him to bump up against and have big feelings around, could be the opportunity for him to release the tension. You may see that he starts to stay dry because he is having good cries around having to wear pullups. Releasing tension is releasing tension. We don’t have to release a specific kind of tension related to a specific circumstance, behavior or situation. Does that make sense?
The most important thing is for you to be relaxed about both bedwetting and night weaning. I truly believe that we have to get to the place in our Listening Time where we cry hard about the situation and we let go of any of our own tension around things changing NOW or even soon. Over and over again, I see that when I am relaxed around a situation, it often gets easier without me having to DO anything.
But you have a lot on your own emotional plate right now, so you might not want to take on ANY emotional projects. How about if you just work on YOU being resourced? More ideas on that coming…
You are such an awesome Mama, Brooke! It’s great that you are here reaching out. You are doing so well!!!
Peace & Smiles,
Hand in Hand Certified Instructor