I just wanted to add, I have done the sleep self guided course and Patti says that yes be well resources but consistency isn’t necessary. So don’t worry if you can’t do every night. However, Kathys advice about tackling one issue at a time is wise. I have four kids, two teens a toddler and 5mo. I often tackle more than one issue at a time but only one at what I call per shift lol. So we just finished a developmental leap for my baby so haven’t tackled anything that requires me to be available or “working” at the times she was fussy – so independent sleep for both her and my toddler were put on the back burner. But I did take on some of the teens issues as they were needing my energy at a different time of the day so didn’t require juggling. We are now finished with the developmental leap so I’m moving on to independent sleep (and night weaning) for baby, but toddlers independent sleep is still in a holding pattern as I could technically handle both, as they have different bed times but it would wear me too thin.
On consistency, I’m already seeing improvement in night waking having started the night weaning process with a couple of nights on, a couple of nights off, a couple of nights on. What patti says in the sleep video is if you can call in the cavalry so you can do it every night and sleep during the day while someone else looks after the kids, great. But not everyone can and even then, it might be too emotionally taxing for you to do it every night. So she says do as much as you can and explain to your kiddo what’s going on. So if I know I’m going to try staylistening instead of feeding I say to her as I put her down, sweetie there won’t be any milk until morning. If I change my mind in the night when the staylistening is taking too long or I’m more tired than I thought I say “sweetie you’ve worked so hard I’m going to give you some milk and we will try again another time”. Patti also says it’s fine to set a time limit for how long you’ll staylisten before going back to other ways to settle (nursing, rocking, pacifier, whatever) so unless I’m super well rested, I do 30 minutes per waking before I go to nursing.
I don’t have any night bed wetting advice, but good luck!