It’s better to offer, “sweetie, I’d love to give you 2 minutes of Special Time” and set the timer.
There is something about that timer that increases the safety and tells your child that they have ALL of you. No distractions or interruptions for 2 minutes!!!
They might even use the setting of the timer as a PRETEXT and get tremendously upset that you are going to set a timer. That’s a good thing! Now the feelings that were driving the off-track behavior can come bubbling to the surface and you are right there to LISTEN.
It’s really tough to SET A LIMIT on tone of voice, so you want to do everything you can to go for the CONNECTION. it’s possible that the connection will either help them get back on track, or the connection will invite the feelings that are driving the snarky behavior. Either way, you may get your sweet child back if you connect and listen.
does that help? Honestly, LaTonia – announcing Special Time and using a timer, ultimately is less important than going for the connection.
peace & smiles,