Well done, Laura!
Before I got to the end of your reply, I was thinking, “just set a limit and see what happens”! And you did it! As long as you are willing to listen to her, and you can be relaxed, connected and calm, then YOU are the captain of the ship and YOU get to set the limits.
It’s most likely going to take more than one time of LISTEN – LIMIT – LISTEN before you see if you are on a good tack. You can always go back to letting her decide if she goes or not. You might as well try it this way for awhile.
And keep working on this in your Listening Time. A Limit is a ‘no’. It’s tough to say ‘no’ to our kids. For some of us, it’s tough to say ‘no’ to anyone. So what was it like when someone said ‘no’ to you? How do you feel when someone tells you ‘no’? How do you feel about being disappointed? Let down?
You will figure this out, good mama! I think it’s awesome that you set a limit and Listened. Keep us posted on how it’s going!
peace & smiles,