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Thank you again for the helpful response and information. I absolutely resonate with the idea that one thinks more clearly when feeling connected and loved. I have incorporated more special time and play listening and it has built a stronger sense of safety, joy and connection. I watched the stay listening and special time intro videos on this website and would appreciate it if you are able to direct me to any other places where I can learn more about those topics, especially in video or audio format?
In terms of supporting my four-year-old in trying her best on test day, I see the tremendous value of having lots of experiences that boost our sense of loving connection. My husband and I will make this our focus. But my daughter has no idea that she’s taking a test and that it’s important to try her best. So I’m wondering whether to give her an incentive on test day for trying her best, and if not, what I can do or say to influence her to try. I’ve been advised to say that she will be meeting “a nice person who is like her teacher and who wants to know what four-year-olds know. Can you help her?” However I have no idea if that will motivate her to actually sit for an hour and give it her best shot. Sitting for an hour in front of a workbook is really not her thing. I could offer an incentive but that could be more distracting than helpful. I was wondering what you would suggest to encourage her to make her best effort on test day?
Also, it seems like an anxiety producing situation to be left with a stranger in a fairly unfamiliar setting to answer test questions for an hour. (She will be tested in a classroom at a school where she took swim lessons -she had a scary experience in the swim class and in the second half of the semester I wound up playing in the water with her instead of having her continue with the swim instructor.) I was wondering if you have any thoughts about what to say to my daughter in advance to try to put her more at ease?
With much appreciation for your help and insight,