I’m so sorry about your broken foot, and particularly sorry that I didn’t respond sooner. Somehow the notice that you’d posted ended up in my spam folder.
I trust that you are feeling better now and perhaps are even a little more active. It must be so difficult to be immobile with an active 2 yr old. It’s so great that you are giving him Special Time. It’s tough for our kiddos when we get hurt.
The first question I’ll ask is if YOU have a Listening Partner? Whenever we are in a tough place – worried about our health and worried about how that is affecting our child, we CAN’T THINK. Fear and worry just shut down our thinking process. If you get some LISTENING TIME, I suspect that even though you aren’t mobile, your son will sense a shift in your energy. It’s uncanny, but I have experienced this symbiotic relationship over and over again. When I get Listening Time around a subject, often without me doing anything, my son shifts. They can sense that we feel more relaxed and are more present.
Listening Partnerships will also help your thinking around resources. I love how this Mom’s thinking around activities and resources that she could call in
Here are some ideas from a very pregnant Mom who couldn’t be very physical with her 2 young boys. Perhaps they can be adapted depending on how much you can move:
1- I play “blanket train”. I wrap him in a blanket and drag him around the house. This gives him all the sensory input he could ask for and I’m at a safe distance.
2-I instigate “a jumping contests” usually off the bed into a pile of pillows, but it varies. This started during the Olympics so I “judge” or call out different jumps. And applaud loudly. 😊
3- sock wars or pillow fights. One of our favorites is where kids and parents are on separate sides of the rooms and everyone lays on their backs and launches pillows at each other. Think Battleship but with pillows. 😜
4- Cookie Monster Football. Cookie Monster holds a soft football (Charlie Brown style) and the kid misses the football and sends Cookie Monster flying. This one is my husband’s and is done complete with commentary and appropriate voice. They die laughing.
5- Tired Mama Crocodile- this one I invented while pregnant. Our house had a loop (if yours doesn’t I suggest moving). I sit on a stool at some point on the loop where I try to “grab” them as they run by. I succeed 10% of the time. The rest of the time they run by squealing with joy as they escape. I use my arms like crocodile jaws. I make sure I lose the majority of the time. They love it and it requires minimal effort on my part!
Lastly, I would say that you getting Listening Time can help you think about how you can provide more proximity and connection with your son, even though you have to rest. For example, if you lay on the floor in his room or the toy room with the door shut, he would have you right there while he played. I suspect it is your “distance” from him, as much as your lack of mobility that has him on-edge. You can’t do rough’n’tumble, but you can lay down and let him crawl around and on top of you. That may fill his connection cup enough to take the edge off his fears. Then when you are mobile again, you can help him with any residual fears by BRINGING a limit and letting him offload when he is looking for that PRETEXT/opportunity.
Let us know if any of that helps. And let us know if you’d like help finding a Listening Partner. Again, my apologies for missing your post. We trust you are mending well and quickly.
Peace & Smiles,
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