Thank you so much Kathy! I didn’t even think about the separation anxiety angle, so that is a huge “a-ha” for me. I am a SAHM, so my kids are with me most of the time, plus part of the reason they share a room is so they aren’t alone at night. But of course, a sibling is not a parent, and maybe separation is harder at bedtime since they deal with less of it day-to-day. Anyway, I will dig into the links you posted.
And I do really need a listening partner—I will post in that thread next. I also just signed up for the Building A Listening Partnership e-course.
Thank you again for your help!