Kudos to you good Mama for taking this to your Listening Partner. You are thinking so well about your sweet boy and you really have a handle on what is driving this off-track behavior.
Absolutely you can be Playful with this behavior. In fact, it’s almost impossible to Set A verbal Limit on verbal off-track behavior. But getting Laughter going through affection games can help. Remember LAUGHTER is the off-loading of light FEARS.
Here are some articles that have some great playlistening games that will help you address the off-track behavior in the moment:
Then you want to help counter the fear in him by ramping up the Special Time, and doing lots of rough/n/tumble PLAY where you take the LESS powerful role. This will fill his connection cup and make him feel less powerless – kind of inoculating him against the off-track behavior he is being exposed to at school.
This article gives you a kind of blue print:
In addition you can help this situation by nurturing his relationship with his sister. Creating games where the two of them get to gang up on you will be very healing for their relationship and great fun! Here are some more ideas on games you can play:
Lastly, I would say that when those things have popped out of his mouth, you can nurture their relationship by simply saying to your daughter, “I’m sorry your brother is not thinking very well right now. He really does love you and we are going to help him get back on track.”
They are so lucky to have you, Tara. I know you will help him figure this out.
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Peace & Smiles,