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Thank you very much Kathy, for your answer and your ideas
My daugther is apparently very exited with the new baby coming. She loves talking with her (which means talking to my belly) and she does it in very lovely way. She shows a lot of excitement and ideas of the things she will do when the baby is born . Her ideas are not allways very realistic, but they are nice and innocent. Do you think she may be feeling fear? and that fear can drive that disobedient behaviour? I will keep on eye on that… And try to reinforce playlistening 🙂
Another issue that i didn’t menction but which can have to do with fear is that last year i was pregnant of 4 month but unfortunatelly we lost the baby. My daugther knew about the baby and we explained her the lost. And during this pregnacy, she has asked several times how the baby is and wheter the baby is now strong enough. So perhaps there can be some fear coming from there too.
And then.. is there is that feeling I have sometimes, which is something like “all these playful techniques are great, but… sometimes, I just want her to obey”. Or… “I am your mother and I like playing with you. But I cannot be always playful. sometimes you have to know that you have to do what I command you to do”. Do any of you also have that feelings? Does it make sense? is it compatible with the Hand in Hand approach?. I guess it is an heritage of the way I was educated, and although I don’t want it to be the basis of my parenting, I can see that it can be also useful and perhaps beneficial.. But I am a bit confused with this.