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I am writing again.. because this afternoon was terrible. And I feel quite desperate.
My daughter came home after being with her grandma, and since the beginning she was disconnected. What to do when she lies down on the floor, closing her eyes, when you ask her to put on the pyjama? After my first email I decided to focus more in the playful approach in these situations, and the truth is that it has worked quite well during the last week. I was so happy with that!. Today I tried it twice, and she laughed a lot and I thought it was done. But then, she started again and I lost my nerves. It was too much for me…
Luckily her father came just then and took care of the situation. Good. At the beginning the fresh playful approach leaded by him worked. But then our daughter refused to wash her tooth with very defiant manners. Then, my husband shouted at her, took her shoulders and shaked her. He sometimes does that when she is totally disconnected. But it is very violent for me. It is like it scares me. And I think it should be terrible for her. That “shaking” always created tension and arguments between my husband and I.
The thing is she reacted. Soon after that he could be playful again, and he finally bring her to bed in a nice way. On the contrary, I was still affected due to myself losing my nerves, and due to the shaking that I think was not appropriate. And then my daugther wanted to stay a bit with me and to say goodnight to the baby (to my belly) And I just hated her, him and everybody in the house. And I felt even worse for that. I was emotionally exhausted. Not good.
Any advice is more tan welcome
Thank you so much for listening