I have read the guide at this link about starting a Parenting by Connection Study Group: http://www.handinhandparenting.org/uploads/news/id193/Study%20Group%20Guide.pdf
I am very interested in doing that (in Las Vegas), but a little bit scared too – mostly because of the time commitment and not being sure if I can make it happen. I am just wondering if there are any modified guidelines for a study group, either with the main method outlined in that guide or using the new book Listen. Or perhaps a modified version for a virtual group where the meetings would be online with listening time to be held outside of the group meetings since it may be hard during the group meetings (on a group skype call, for example–would the pair listening portions be done via phone and then each member returns to the skype call when the timer goes off?).
I just wonder if you might have any additional, or updated, ideas and suggestions. I listened to the recording you shared, Kathy, in response to my question earlier this week, and felt like that is a really good intro to HiH that I could maybe post in a link on facebook with an invite to my friends to check it out and let me know if they would like to do an in-person or online parenting study group to support each other in practicing the methods talked about in the podcast. This is the link I am referring to:
I think it would really help me to be able to talk about these things with people in my own community, and to have that in-person support from time to time.
You are such an awesome Mama and force for good. It would be extraordinary for you to create a Hand in Hand community in your area.
I think the first thing for you to do, Brooke is to take this to your Listening Partner. That would be a great place to address the fear and overwhelm. What would it be like to step out in your neighborhood or at your child’s school and say, ‘hey, I’ve found this great way of parenting”. Want to explore it with me?’ Explore your feelings around organizing something. When you’ve organized things before, how did it feel? How did it go? How did your parents feel about organizing events and/or stepping out into the spotlight? That’s the place to start. If you get to some feelings around being a LEADER, then you can start to think clearly about what you want to create and what would support you.
Your description of an on-line discussion group, where you go off-line for LPs, sounds very much like the Starter Class. Have you ever taken a Starter Class or considered taking one? The other parents would most likely not be local, but it is a small group of parents (4-6) who meet weekly with an Instructor via phone/skype to focus on practicing one tool each week and getting listening time with an experienced listener. Perhaps this would give you the regular support you want. Check this out: http://shop.handinhandparenting.org/products/parenting-by-connection-starter-online#oid=15_9
The Study Group manual is almost exactly like the Starter Class. You get a small group of parents together. You each buy the Listening to Children booklets. Each week you practice a different tool and then come together to share your experience and do listening time. The difference between a Starter Class and a Study Group is that 1) In a Starter Class, you get an Instructor and you pay for it. 2) A Study Group has an organizer but no ‘leader’. It’s more of a discussion group. You divide the time between discussion and listening time.
The LISTEN book club discussion group is really just like a Study Group. You just use the book LISTEN, rather than the “Listening to Children” booklets.
I hope those distinctions help. Brooke, once your thinking is clear, you can create this anyway you want.
– You could put together a Study Group where you meet in person.
You would be the organizer, but not the “teacher.”
– You could put together a Study Group and use a free conference line or skype to meet on-line
– If you put together an on-line Study group, you could hire an Instructor to meet with you every week or
perhaps just at the beginning and the end of your time together. The Instructor would get you going
and help you stay on track
– You could put together an in-person Study group and hire an Instructor to come to Las Vegas
for a weekend or one-day in-person workshop. There are Instructors in CA not too far from you.
You really can create this any way that looks and feels good to you. I have worked with groups where they met in person and I skyped into their meeting. Just about anything, these days, is possible!
Those are my thoughts. I hope I have answered yours. I am unclear as to what you mean by ‘modification’. So, please fire back with any questions and let us know how we can support you and be of service.
Peace & Smiles,
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I thought about the study group too. Would be great if it was in person. I’m in San Diego and would be open to creating an online one but getting to the phone would have at night. 8 pm pst
FYI, there seems to be far more activity on the HIH Parent Support FB group and even the Parent Club FB group than on this site.
I suspect there would be great interest on one of those pages in doing a Study Group – especially if you were going to do it via skype or phone. Since HIH in headquartered in Palo Alto, we have a large CA contingency.
BTW, I’m in LA if you ever wanted to organize an all day kind of event and bring me down. You are such a wonderful force for good and such an inspiration to so many parents.
Thank you for all the wonderful work you are doing with your own family and your contributions to so many others.
Peace & Smiles,