My daughter turned 2 a month ago, and she’s been doing really well at peeing in the potty when she’s home. However, according to her daycare provider, she’s not interested in using the potty there. Also, she has only pooped in the toilet once at our house and now when I ask her if she wants to go poop in the potty (when I know she needs to go) she says “no no no” and she’ll hold it until she has a diaper on.
I recognize that pushing/insisting is very counter-productive, but I do want to continue to encourage in the right direction (both using the potty at daycare and pooping in the potty).
Thanks in advance!
We had a hard time with both our boys and we were under a lot of pressure because the pre-school wanted them to be fully potty trained before starting school. But both of them finally got potty trained at 2.5 years old. I don’t have theoretical advice to offer, but I came up with a trick that worked for us. I read so many books and articles and asked so many other parents for tricks and ideas. Nothing worked. Until I finally came up with my own 🙂
and the trick worked on both of them. Now it may sound a little too much or too elaborate, but it really worked and it was very easy to do. I had bought a doll that came with a a very small potty. We did not use the doll but we used the tiny potty. And we would put one of his favorite plush toys which was a plush cow on the potty and tell the toy that it was time to go potty and so my son would put him on the potty. At first this didn’t do anything. But I changed strategies: I would ask my son to leave him alone because he needed privacy and I would also turn my back to the plush toy for a second. But then I would secretly add some water to the potty (I kept a little syringe full of water hidden behind me) and also added some little poops I had created with brown play dough !!! then I would ask my son to check on him to see if he had finished. and I can’t tell you how happy he looked when he would discover the little poops in the toy’s potty! Then I would make him take the potty to the bathroom, empty it, flush the toilet (Sorry I wasted a lot of water). and then wipe the little toy’s bottom. He was very happy to do this. And then we would cheer , celebrate and admire the plush toy’s success.
After we did this a few times, my son agreed to sit on the potty for number 2 and of course we celebrated in the same way. We made the plush toy cheer for him, etc. I think we just did this 4 or 5 times before he agreed to go potty.
I can tell you that the moment this became more fun for them, there was less stress around it and they did not feel like we were pushing them to get potty-trained, or forcing them to do something they did not want to do, which finally got me less stressed, so I was able to change my attitude. In addition I think they liked the responsibility I gave them to empty the potty.
Of course this was just part one. Once he agreed to go potty, then he eventually agreed to do it in the toilet. But he would do it only if I allowed him to stand up on the toilet seat!! It was not very comfortable, and I had to hold him so he doesn’t fall. But I stayed calm and told him it’s ok, he can do it standing up. He eventually decided on his own to sit down after a week.
If you don’t have the tiny potty, it’s no big deal you can use your daughter’s potty.
I hope this helps, it worked for us.
Thank you so much for your response and sharing your success story! I am totally going to try your little trick to see if it works for our daughter! I’ll keep you posted!